“Why does everything always have to be a fight?” “Why can’t we ever talk about something without it turning into a fight?” These are things I hear not only from my couples in couples therapy but also from individuals. Wouldn’t you appreciate feeling heard in a difficult conversation? And I’m sure there have been many […]
There are times that I don’t always show up as my best self. I’m sure if you ask my husband, Todd, he’ll tell you that there are many more times than I care to admit, that a lesser version of myself shows up. Just like all of us, I can get stressed or be in
It feels like our world has changed so much in the last eight weeks. The coronavirus has impacted each and every one of us to varying significant degrees. All of us now have a new normal. As we socially distance, some of us are breathing a sigh of relief and enjoying being introverted. Others of
How do you express to your partner that your feelings are hurt or that you are annoyed or angry with him/her? The way you convey these concerns makes a big difference in your relationship, how your spouse is likely to feel and respond, and whether or not you will get your needs met. Many of
The Awakening(Author unknown) A time comes in your life when you finally get it…when, in the midst of all your fears and insanity, you stop dead in your tracks and somewhere the voice inside your head cries out…ENOUGH! Enough fighting and crying and blaming and struggling to hold on. Then, like a child quieting down
I recently ran across this wonderful article by Rick Belden at his site www.goodmenproject.com. He has wonderful insights on how most of us tend to run away from our emotional and psychological pain rather than sitting down and working through it. We do this because of conditioning and fear, among other reasons. The effect of this
An old Cherokee told his grandson, “My son, there is a battle between two wolves inside us all. One is evil. It is anger, jealousy, greed, resentment, inferiority, lies, and ego. The other is good. It is joy, peace, love, hope, kindness, humility, empathy and truth.” The boy thought about it and asked, “Grandfather, which
This being human is a guest house.Every morning a new arrival. A joy, a depression, a meanness,some momentary awareness comesas an unexpected visitor. Welcome and entertain them all!Even if they’re a crowd of sorrows,who violently sweep your houseempty of its furniture,still, treat each guest honorably.He may be clearing you outfor some new delight. The dark
